July 10, 2018

I just recently finished watching Netflix’s Original: Lost In Space. This is not your parent’s 1965 campy LIS, but a darker, complex and more developed narrative. The creators have taken license to update this classic creating an edgier and more interesting drama in contrast to the comedic tongue in cheek 60’s version.  While all the characters differ from their earlier counterparts, the most dramatic transformation is Dr. Smith. We are introduced to a female sociopath whose criminal record prohibits her from evacuating planet Earth and whose laser focus is fixated on her desire to esca...

February 24, 2018

In my last blog I shared about a study I recently read that had concluded that there are three distinct subtypes of narcissism – Grandiose/Malignant Narcissism, Fragile Narcissism and High Functioning/Exhibitionistic Narcissism. This resonated for me and the division seems to provide a better framework to understand how some narcissistically disordered individuals hide, some resort to violence and others are able to hold down political office or significant positions of power. 

While these categorizations should remain a loose framework with their overlap acknowledged as well; they...

February 21, 2018

Are you confused about Narcissism?  I know that I am.  Much less than I used to be, but when I dig into material, so many definitions emerge. Are they adjectives, verbs or both?  Are they the ranting’s of those who have been victimized by these disordered individuals?  Why do there appear to be contradictions? I am trying to separate out ‘fact from fiction’ and seeking answers by combing empirical theories to shared experiences found in popular media.

It appears that there is a huge wave of websites and articles attempting to explain personality disorders.  They are writte...

January 29, 2018

This blog post feels redundant even before I write it.  Is there anything new to be added to the thousands of articles written about the grandiose type of Narcissism?  Prior to my own awakening on how covert some narcissists operate; the grandiose types always seemed so well…grandiose. 

Before listing out the various characteristics, its important to communicate the difference between those who is self-absorbed and those individuals who are clinically disordered.  Psychological terms have been integrated into the cultural framework and utilized as adjectives to describe people...

January 18, 2018

Narcissism defined is the psychological movement that functions to preserve structural cohesiveness, stability and positive emotional reflection on the individual’s self-representation. While that sounds pretty heady, exploring abstract concepts doesn’t always leave us with metaphorically language to define it.  Basically, narcissism functions to assist in identity formation, identity expression and provides us with the motivation to care for ourselves.

Whether narcissism is actually a fixed or permanent personality trait remains highly debated within professional circles.  While mu...

July 16, 2017

This video was posted in one of the recovery groups that I support.  As I read the many ways survivors express their pain over the past year or so; I have also wondered about those fortunate individuals who have never been involved with a narcissist and how they perceive the fall out. I have questioned if metaphors are helpful in communicating the destruction narcs rain down on their intimate relationships be it family, friends or partners.  When speaking of concepts or experiences that are greater than the limits of language; metaphors really do paint powerful pictures.  The producer m...

July 10, 2017

Someone recently asked me, ‘What is a Narcissist’? Oh wow, that is a loaded question and I find it impossible to respond with a sentence or two. Investigation has led me to numerous theories on the narcissist; and finding a simple answer to explain only leads to concepts that are increasingly complex and continuing to grow.

I can not write about narcissistic abuse before exploring and explaining what I’ve learned about narcissism and how it operates. I’m going to adapt a question that Rob Bell utilized as a title of one of his books.  What do we talk about when we talk about…narcissism?...

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