“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I've learned, the hard way, that some poems don't rhyme, and some stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity."
COVID-19 - A global pandemic. Wow.
I understand how hard it is to wrap the mind around all that humanity is collectively experiencing on an international scale...even six weeks into a shelter-in-place...it is still so surreal. I have created this page to address the clinical concerns that are on my mind and what I am wanting to offer as we move into the unknown future.
The mental health field is bracing itself for the emotional tsunami and inevitable fallout. It's why so many clinicians are speaking out on the importance of focusing on your current emotional state and exploring resources to help you navigate this crisis.
Colleagues and myself who specialize in narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery are collaborating by sharing our own concerns as well as our desire to provide safe environments where the collective anxiety, fear, grief, loss and pain can be addressed. We know the impact this pandemic is having and will continue to have, on everyone. We also know the impact that is currently being experienced by those who have a history of trauma and especially on those who are sheltering in place with their psychological and sometimes physical predator.
The stress of worldwide uncertainty filters into all areas of our life and the consequences of media saturation and enforced isolation provides people with the space to ruminate on what was, what is no longer and an uncharted future.
Life has been suspended.
Plans have been interrupted.
Dreams are deferred.
Celebrations have been lost.
The work we are investing in is coming back fruitless.
Loved ones are distant...some are gone.
We are united in our collective grief and trauma. Its important to acknowledge this experience and find space to talk about what is happening. Humans are wired to want to sift through all the information and find ways to adapt. Our survival mechanisms are working overtime trying to figure out what to do. When that process is obstructed, feelings of powerlessness can lead to anxiety and depression. It's vital to process, yet avoid focusing too much on where the road is leading.
I have moved my private practice fully online and am providing tele-therapy via phone or video through secure platforms. Switching over to video sessions has opened up additional spots in my schedule and I am able to provide flexible scheduling. I am also opening up sliding scale spots for medical personnel, first responders and those who are in recovery from narcissistic abuse.
There are no answers during the difficult time, but I am here to provide a trained ear and a compassionate heart as we lean into the discomfort and ease into the hidden mystery of what is to come.