Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
"The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much,
and forgetting that you are special too." Ernest Hemingway
Narcissistic Abuse is an emotionally toxic experience that can be defined as calculated and repetitive ‘psychological abuse’. The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle is a systematic and subtle tearing down of boundaries around a targeted person’s sense of self by a perpetrator utilizing manipulation tactics to get their needs served. It operates in a variety of relational contexts, but its damage is most keenly experienced in close intimate relationships.
‘Narcissistic Orientation is when one experiences as real only that which exists within themselves, when the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous.’ Erich Fromm
Narcissistic Abuse is sustained through a pattern of cyclical extremes. The unpredictable nature of the perpetrator’s emotional world quickly leads the unaware partner into a downward abusive cycle that breeds confusion and doubt enforcing a trauma bond. Questions about who you are becoming and what you did to warrant such cruelty consume the targeted's thoughts. Longing to regain the status of the idealized partner drives preoccupation and obsessive thinking leads to questioning of ones own perception. The manipulator preys upon these beliefs sustaining relational control and keeping the targeted in a state of emotional powerlessness. The cycle brings on feelings of exhaustion, confusion, ambivalence, emptiness and broken-heartedness. Isolation and disorientation lead to questions of whether to stay, but at the same time making it feel like it's impossible to go.
If you are feeling emotionally unstable in this one relationship, yet normal in all your other, this may be an indicator that you are caught in the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle.
If any part of this resonates, I'm here to tell you it's not you!
You have been systematically conditioned to focus on the needs and wants of your toxic partner or parent while minimizing and ignoring your own. I am here to help as you regain your equilibrium by breaking free of the external focus and help you shift your attention back towards a more balanced internal focus. In time, you can and will regain your own sense of self and an increased capacity for self-love you may have never experienced before.
I believe you and you are not alone.
If you have any questions, I can be reached at 818-583-7105.