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September 9, 2019

Hey Worthy Ones!  

Just a quick blog to provide you with a support network I stumbled upon this past week.  I am a member of many online narcissistic abuse recovery groups and sometimes read about the struggle members have finding therapists who fully grasp the dynamics of this type of abuse.  While I don’t doubt this, it concerns me when I see these same individuals giving up on therapy because their first experience left them feeling misunderstood and alone.  I’m sorry this happens. I want to assure you that the field of mental health is beginning to understand that this is a very...

Yes, it seems like narcissistic tendencies are on the rise, but that doesn't mean that every selfish person that crosses your path has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). I think that people are becoming more curious and aware of the personality disorder because of the current POTUS. Narcissism has become the new buzz word and just like buzz words that have gone before, misinformation is attached and this word gets used to label others.  

Narcissism is something we all experience and it operates on a scale.  Narcissism is vital to identity development and is appr...

July 27, 2018

While I should be working on my page long ‘to do’ list, I am taking a short break to jot down some random thoughts.  As I scrolled through social media this morning I came upon a post of someone’s child with the caption, ‘gotta keep em happy’.  

Many clients bring parenting issues into the therapy room and the emphasis on their children’s happiness seems to flow like an underwater channel to many of their problems.  

When I hear ‘all I want is for my children to be happy’, my ears perk up and I think to myself, when did parenting become about making children’s env...

July 10, 2018

I just recently finished watching Netflix’s Original: Lost In Space. This is not your parent’s 1965 campy LIS, but a darker, complex and more developed narrative. The creators have taken license to update this classic creating an edgier and more interesting drama in contrast to the comedic tongue in cheek 60’s version.  While all the characters differ from their earlier counterparts, the most dramatic transformation is Dr. Smith. We are introduced to a female sociopath whose criminal record prohibits her from evacuating planet Earth and whose laser focus is fixated on her desire to esca...

April 2, 2018

Today is Easter, what Christians call Resurrection Day.  I no longer consider myself very religious and have redefined what faith means to me; however I have not been able to fully divorce myself from my Christian upbringing.  Resurrection themes run through my ethic like foundational threads of a beautiful tapestry.  The metaphor of a new life emerging from loss, hopeless, despair and tragedy resonates so deeply…largely because I have lived those themes multiple times throughout my life.  It is the reason being a therapist means so much to me. 

Most of us experience...

February 24, 2018

In my last blog I shared about a study I recently read that had concluded that there are three distinct subtypes of narcissism – Grandiose/Malignant Narcissism, Fragile Narcissism and High Functioning/Exhibitionistic Narcissism. This resonated for me and the division seems to provide a better framework to understand how some narcissistically disordered individuals hide, some resort to violence and others are able to hold down political office or significant positions of power. 

While these categorizations should remain a loose framework with their overlap acknowledged as well; they...

February 21, 2018

Are you confused about Narcissism?  I know that I am.  Much less than I used to be, but when I dig into material, so many definitions emerge. Are they adjectives, verbs or both?  Are they the ranting’s of those who have been victimized by these disordered individuals?  Why do there appear to be contradictions? I am trying to separate out ‘fact from fiction’ and seeking answers by combing empirical theories to shared experiences found in popular media.

It appears that there is a huge wave of websites and articles attempting to explain personality disorders.  They are writte...

February 18, 2018

P.R.A.C.T.I.C.A.L.!!!!!

Theory is great, mental gymnastics are sometimes fun, however, when it comes to extricating oneself from a toxic marriage; what to expect needs to be clearly communicated and a visible direction provided.  Eddy and Kreger have successfully done this through their book Splitting.  They have co-authored an accessible and well organized self-help manual that provides excellent explanations about how personality disorders operate, what behaviors are to be expected, what to look for in legal representation, what to expect from the family court, what the legal system ca...

February 12, 2018

I hate to admit it, but my name is Carol and I’m a book-buying addict. Notice I didn’t say I’m addicted to reading books. While I do my fair share of study, I buy far more books than I’m able to ingest leading me to contemplate giving audio books a chance. Last week I took the plunge signing up for a 30 Day free subscription and finished my first ever audio book, ‘The Sociopath Next Door:  The Ruthless Versus the Rest of Us’ by Dr. Martha Stout. 

Fortunately, I picked well. Before sharing what I learned, I have to admit I thoroughly enjoyed listened to the narrative on my drive to and fr...